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Welcome to It’s Not About The Chair. I’m Lyena Strelkoff, a storyteller, performer, speaker, and coach. I believe our stories — the ones we’ve lived, that we can’t believe we made it through, or can’t stop laughing about, or just can’t stop thinking about —  are the greatest source of healing we have, for ourselves and especially, for each other. I started telling my own stories after I was paralyzed in a fall. My hope is that this blog will be a place to laugh, learn, heal and grow together. Because, ultimately, it’s not about the chair, or any other obstacle we might face. It’s about the choices we make, the spirit we bring, and helping each other thrive. I’m so glad you’re here.

This pre-injury photo exploded my Facebook page, and brought back the magic of my fall

A few days ago, I was clearing out my desk and stumbled on this photo:


That’s me, from a professional shoot in support of my acting career, taken a few months before I was paralyzed.

The photo brought up some very curious feelings — SO not the ones you might expect. And as I pieced them apart (publicly, on Facebook), one primary thing rose to the surface:

How quickly and utterly I turned my back on this life after I fell, not because I had to… but because I wanted to.

The fact is, falling was a profoundly spiritual experience for me, an opportunity I had consciously asked for just days before. It was the fulfillment of a desire and, because of that, I wasn’t falling in fear. I was falling in bliss.

Well, the FB thread exploded with likes and comments, and one particular conversation — with my friend Julia Kline — really caught my attention.

Julia’s had two primary “catastrophes” in life, one before she had a spiritual context for her life, and one after. The difference in how the two affected her was profound.

Please join us tomorrow for a very special episode of The Shero Show.

I’ll be sharing the story of my fall and the unforgettable magic that happened while I was midair, and Julia and I will have a public conversation about the way spirituality affects the experience — and healing process — of “catastrophe.”

If you’ve ever been stuck in the wake of a hardship…

If you’re longing to be deeply inspired…

This is the show for you.

The Shero Show (aka Shero Rising Radio)

 

We’ll open the line at the end for questions and comments, so be sure to join us live. [The live broadcast has already taken place. Click the above link to hear the replay.]

I never in a million years expected the strength, courage, or resiliency I experienced post-injury. Those moments in the air truly changed everything. So please join us for The Shero Show… I promise, you won’t regret it.

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A hefty dose of magic

I’ve just returned from the Shero’s Retreat. My family met me for a sweet reunion and mini retreat of our own, then I woke this morning to rain and thunder — in July!! And now, with the skies grey and the breeze blowing, our whole house smells like the banana bread I just baked…… I’d say it’s been a pretty spectacular re-entry!

This Shero’s Retreat was magical.

Each one is different since they are co-created not only with the participant but also with Spirit. If I had to pick a word for the one in April, it would be powerful. And this one? Magic:

The blue jay, now crowned (remember the scrub jay from April?); a major breakthrough — in hour one; deeeeeep connection with the Divine; intuition pouring forth; angels galore (and I am SO not into “angels”….. but I am now!); a gilded leaf; a past life resolved; a bird’s insanity; legions of allies; two crippling agreements found and severed; a heart retrieved (and a heart cast away); a medicine man’s arrival; a body reentered; a naughty adventure (full of giggles and even MORE angels); a glorious vision received; and a new life conceived…. All in the company of healing waters, delicious food, breathtaking beauty, and a chance to rest and be renewed. Magic, I tell you.

There are too many stories to write here, and I’ll let Cheri speak for herself when the time is right, but in the meantime, I invite you to join me next Saturday (and every Saturday after that!) for The Shero Show (or Shero Rising Radio, as I called it last week!) where I’ll be sharing the amazing stories and breakthroughs from this Shero’s Retreat (along with all the other juicy stuff from the Shero’s way of life).

Until then, wishing for you the bubbling up of magic, adding delight and a bit of spice to your life.

xox

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Need a laugh about “worthless, unworthy, and not good enough?”

I am a PIECE OF WORK!

This week, I’ve been resisting all good things in the name of being “worthless, unworthy, and not good enough.” Sound familiar?

Well, it finally broke in hilarious fashion by, of all things, embracing fully my attachment to these nasty beliefs.

Tune in for a funny story about being addicted to “worthless, unworthy, and not good enough,” where we’ll get a little snarky with God and a lot truthful with ourselves…. in the name of finally being free.

Shero Rising Radio Hour 

Because we only rise when we rise together.

P.S. Be sure to tune in live if “worthless, unworthy, and not good enough” are common for you too. We’ll be doing a little healing ritual at the end to lift us all up. xox (The live broadcast has already taken place. Click the link above to hear the replay.)

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Exciting things coming up (and a Shero who needs your love)

I started my morning with such a juicy meditation today! I’ve been hanging out at my local Center for Spiritual Living, and it’s really energizing my meditation and prayer practice. It’s such an uplifting and nourishing way to begin the day. And it’s got me feeling REALLY excited about things coming up!

Here’s a sneak peek:

1) If you’re like me, my clients and a former client, your relationship took a hit two weeks ago. There was definitely something about this past new moon. I’m working on a story about that — sex, dolphins, magic, and letting go of the “good” — which I’ll share with you soon.

2) After the mini, virtual retreats last month, and last week’s address about Charleston, I’m really craving ways to connect with you more often live. So starting after the upcoming Shero’s Retreat, I think I’ll be launching a weekly radio show of sorts. It’s still evolving in my mind, but think inspiring stories, laughter, support, uplifting prayer, transformational ritual, live coaching, guest Sheros, and all around juiciness to nourish your soul and lift you up!

If you’re excited by the sound of that, PLEASE let me know. I can use all the love and good juju around it that I can get right now.

3) Speaking of the Shero’s Retreat, registration for July’s Group Shero’s Retreat is closed. I’ll be making two more private retreats available this year, and then I think we’ll do a group in January. So if you’ve been thinking about the Shero’s Retreat for yourself, drop these into your cauldron of possibilities and see what bubbles up. I’ll give more dates and details as I have them.

4) Regarding the current retreat, it’s going to be just Cheri and me. (Did you miss her story? Read it here.) I intended to have more women joining us, but I trust completely the way things evolve. We’re both very excited.

Cheri, by the way, is also nervous. It’s a big deal to put yourself squarely in front of the mirror and take responsibility for your life. Will you give her some added courage and support? You can by leaving a note of encouragement in the comments below. If you’re so moved, do take a moment. I know it would mean a lot to her…. And that’s what we do here in the Sherohood!

Incidentally, I won’t be checking in with you during the retreat so I can devote my attention to Cheri and her evolution. But stay tuned for luscious posts afterward. The retreat ALWAYS brings on super rich insight and inspiring stories. It’s one way you get to benefit, right from the bed or the couch or wherever you sit around in your jammies and read!

5) And finally, with registration closed and everything else swimming along nicely, I can finally make myself available for new short-term coaching clients. I only have two slots available right now, but if you’re ready to make some key changes and step closer to your soul’s purpose, let’s have a chat. You can click here to get the ball rolling.

And that’s all I’ve got for the moment. As always, I’m grateful to be in this relationship with you, my tribe. And I’m holding space for your inspired evolution.

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What I see in Charleston — a Shero perspective

This morning, I delivered an address about what I see in Charleston from the Shero perspective. You can listen at the link below.

What I want more than anything is for the nine lives lost, and the countless more shattered, in Charleston to count for something, something as great as those very lives. And if I want that, then I must view these events as a personal opportunity and ask one very important question of myself…

What I see in Charleston — a Shero perspective

And here is the referenced link to President Obama’s address.

So… Please share with us what you find when you ask the question… Let us stand with you… And let’s all stand together for what those lives in Charleston matter.

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