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Welcome to It’s Not About The Chair. I’m Lyena Strelkoff, a storyteller, performer, speaker, and coach. I believe our stories — the ones we’ve lived, that we can’t believe we made it through, or can’t stop laughing about, or just can’t stop thinking about —  are the greatest source of healing we have, for ourselves and especially, for each other. I started telling my own stories after I was paralyzed in a fall. My hope is that this blog will be a place to laugh, learn, heal and grow together. Because, ultimately, it’s not about the chair, or any other obstacle we might face. It’s about the choices we make, the spirit we bring, and helping each other thrive. I’m so glad you’re here.

How would it feel to take back your power?

I was talking yesterday with a good friend about her recent divorce, specifically, what she needed most when it was all unfolding. And one of the things she said was, “Stability.”

You can imagine it, right?

A situation you don’t expect enters your life, turns things upside down, takes some precious things away from you, foists a whole mess of complicated emotion on you, and leaves you feeling off center and without ground, trying to find what’s left and piece it back together.

Sound familiar? It certainly did to me.

And one of the things both my friend and I experienced was a sense of powerlessness. We felt at the mercy of our situations.

To be sure, there is always a certain amount of genuine powerless in these sorts of situations. She couldn’t control her husband’s choices or behavior. I couldn’t control my spinal cord.

But these situations steal much more than power we never had. They steal our focus, our plans, our energy, our sense of self, and sense of place…

They steal our personal power…. And with it, our ground. (Hence her overwhelming desire for stability.)

Has this happened to you? Are you sitting there slowly nodding your head?

Well, what would it feel like to take back your power?

What would it feel like to be standing, once again, on solid ground — confident, strong, inspired?

What could you do with all that focus, energy, sense of self and place?

What could you do with your dreams? (Or maybe, might you dare to dream again?)

Please join us for the virtual, mini Shero’s Retreat. Spend an hour on the nourishing shores with like women who see the shine inside you….

…. and come find your ground.

Free, virtual mini Shero’s Retreat
Saturday, May 30
10am PT/1pm ET

Call in details:
(641) 715-3580
Access code: 222 491#

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Call in details for the F R E E virtual mini Shero’s Retreat

Well, the energy is definitely rising. Response to the free, virtual, mini Shero’s Retreat happening this Saturday has been exciting. Will you be joining us?

Just to remind you, there are three ways you can participate:

1. Be one of three women with whom I work directly, live on the call. Definitely, the most meaningful and immediate transformation.
(There are 2 spots left. If you want to apply, leave a comment with the answers to the prep questions below. They’ll stay confidential.)

2. Participate anonymously as we go along. A potent choice for enacting change in your life.

3. Or just listen and absorb what transmission is available. A taster with surprising potential.

Here are the details, as promised:

Free, virtual mini Shero’s Retreat
Saturday, May 30
10am PT/1pm ET

Call in details:
(641) 715-3580
Access code: 222 491#

If you’re going to participate at levels 1 or 2 above, here’s what you need to do to prepare BEFORE you get on the call:

1. Answer the prep questions and bring those answers to the call. (Questions re-posted below.)

2. Find a cord (yarn, ribbon, twine, strap, very long shoelace…) that you are willing to cut. It should be long enough to tie easily around your waist with a bit of a tail left over. Bring that cord and a pair of scissors to the call.

This mini, virtual retreat is for you if….
You feel like your life is no longer in alignment…

Your life has been recently turned upside down, or you can feel the tables getting ready to flip…

You long to live firmly rooted in your soul’s purpose… feeling confident, joyous, and free… in right relationships, earning your right livelihood… feeling vital and fulfilled.

Let’s travel virtually to the nourishing shores of the retreat and, together, release a potent piece of your old story (one that is prohibiting your forward motion) and begin activating your NEW story.

So looking forward to being with you!

Prep Questions:

Question #1 — What is one area of your life that feels out of alignment? (i.e. your health, a relationship, your career/work or money…)

Question #2 –What do you know right now about what you want instead?

Question #3 — What do you know right now about what stands in the way?

Question #4 — If accepted to be coached live on the call, will you commit to participating live on Saturday, May 30 from 10am – 11:30am pacific time?

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The group Shero’s Retreat – What is it? Who’s it for? Why should I go?

I realize I haven’t told you much about the group Shero’s Retreat, so maybe it’s time I do. (Thanks to everyone who has already checked out the link!) What is this thing, who’s it for, and why would you want to go?

What is it: It’s five days nestled in the sycamore groves of Central California; soaking in mineral spring tubs; eating gourmet, organic food; and being supported to make of your outmoded, ill-fitting life one that feeds your soul and rings true with your highest purpose.

Who is it for: This one is for three women whose lives have recently been turned upside down (or who have the feeling it soon will be); or who feel like their life is no longer in alignment; who long to live firmly rooted in their soul’s purpose… in right relationship, earning their right livelihood, feeling vital and fulfilled. (Sorry, guys, this one’s not for you. All of my other programs are available to men who resonate with this work, including the private Shero’s Retreat. But this particular retreat is reserved for the gals.)

Why would you want to go: 

To take your power back from whatever circumstance has left you feeling off center and without ground.

To find new ground — solid, secure, inspired — where you can stand with confidence and grace and general badassery.

To turn the pile of shit you’re sitting on into a gold mine, for the benefit of every relationship you have, your work, your career, your health, and your wellbeing.

To laugh, play, dream, and heal with women just like you, who will root for you, believe in you, sustain you, and see you for the shining shero you truly are (but maybe can’t see too often lately).

To have extraordinary help from someone who has had her life turned upside down, and lost the things that mattered most, who found a path out of the ashes and can lead you right to the sky.

To be nourished…. fed….. renewed…. sustained.

To see clearly the life that awaits you, the one you’re really longing for, and begin, right there, right then, to create it.

To become the you you long to be — for reelz.

When does it happen:

The retreat is scheduled for July 13 – 17. Virtual group coaching begins June 20 and continues for several weeks after the retreat, to ensure you have adequate support upon reentry.

What’s included:
* Four nights at the Sycamore Mineral Springs Resort and Spa in Central California
* Unlimited healing hot springs
* Gourmet, local, organic food and juices
* A spa treatment
* Intuitive movement, guided meditation, sacred
storytelling, shamanic writing….
* Daily, supportive, inspiring group coaching (using my signature process, The Shero’s Way ™)
* An additional 5, virtual, group coaching sessions to support and sustain your transformation before and after the retreat.
* Unlimited laughter, sisterhood, and magic, plus a few choice miracles.
(And some other stuff, too.)

How much does it cost:

The retreat package (all of the above) starts at $4,999.

HUGE SAVINGS:

Register by June 1 and save $1,000. (No kidding…. a whole thousand.) Only $3,999.

How do I say yes?

Because it’s such an intimate group, the retreat is by application only. That helps me ensure everyone gets the most benefit possible.

So, if you know the group Shero’s Retreat is for you (or if you think it might be and you want to talk more about it), pop over here and apply. There’s no obligation to join when you apply. we’ll just get the ball rolling so you can take advantage of that huge savings (a whole thousand dollars — that blows even me away.)

So now you know the details. If you want more info (testimonial, detail of benefits, etc.) you can check out this.

What do you say? Are you in?

 

 

 

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A FREE, virtual, mini Shero’s Retreat this weekend, for you

I said I’d be back today with more to support you in dissolving the outmoded story of your life and birthing a more purposeful and satisfying version. And what I’ve got is so über juicy, I can hardly sit still. But first, I have a small confession.

I have to admit, I’ve always found it very difficult to articulate the potent power of the Shero’s Retreat. Call me a bad marketer, but somehow I can never seem to capture what really happens in the room. I can give you the details of what we do, but the magnitude always sounds exaggerated.

I’ll give you an example:

Katie McDonald, a single mother from Colorado who’d never worked with a coach. She went through the Shero’s Retreat process with me (in a slightly different, honestly less refined format) last year. And when it was over, it had changed everything: her relationships with her children; with her ex-husband; with her boss; she asked for and got a raise; she manifested an opportunity to publish her story (an anthology that went on to be an Amazon bestseller); she booked her first speaking gig as a motivational speaker (a LONG time dream); she started coaching actual paying clients (a desire she didn’t even know she had until we uncovered it); she found new love (something she thought she wasn’t ready for when we started); and she discovered, much to her surprise, just how powerful a creator she was when she manifested literally out of thin air the money for our work together. Katie likes to brag that she even grew an inch! (NOT a customary outcome!)

Every one of those results happened within a six month period, and all but one were beyond the scope of what she imagined possible, or imagined at all. She credits our work together (her testimonial can be found here).

Now what did she come with? (This is a super important question. It’s a good way to know if her experience is relevant for you.) Only this:

A burning desire to live in alignment with her soul’s purpose, which had been motivated by an outbreak of spots that alerted her to the misalignment and obsolescence of her old “story,” her former way of living and being in the world. Oh, and a willingness to heed the call of her shero’s journey without knowing quite what that might look like. You could say, she was brave.

Now, I totally get that her results sound too good to be true or, at least, sound like a fluke, a one-time lucky shot. Except they’re not. They’re really, truly not.

So, here’s what I want to do:

Rather than offer you a bunch more words (theirs and mine) in the hope of giving you a proper sense of benefit, I want to give you the experience of benefit. I want to make available some of what the Shero’s Retreat offers.

Because that’s really what this all about — concrete benefit for you and your life. Words might convince you that the Shero’s Retreat is cool, but they aren’t going to give you, personally, any of its value. And that’s what I want you to have, whether or not you’re interested in the retreat, whether or not you think you might go. I want you to have the value.

So….

This Saturday, May 30, at 10am PT, I’m going to offer a free, virtual, mini Shero’s Retreat. Yep. A little slice of heaven designed to change your life.

If you feel like your life is no longer in alignment…

If it’s been recently turned upside down, or you can feel the tables getting ready to flip…

If you long to live firmly rooted in your soul’s purpose…

feeling confident, joyous, and free…

in right relationships, earning your right livelihood…

feeling vital and fulfilled…

… this is for you.

Over the course of an hour and a half, we’ll travel virtually to the nourishing shores of the retreat and, together, we’ll actually do the transformative work we do on location. We’ll release a potent piece of your old story (one that is prohibiting your forward motion) and begin activating the new story. I’m not going to talk about it, or give you words to work with on your own later…. I’m going to facilitate actual transformation in the moment.

What does that mean for you?

It means you get to have a juicy, healing experience — without leaving your house, without paying a dime — that can move your life forward, right now, in real time.

Sound good?

There are three ways to participate:

1. Be one of three women with whom I work directly, live on the call. Definitely, the most meaningful and immediate transformation.

2. Participate anonymously as we go along. A potent choice for enacting change in your life.

3. Or just listen and absorb what transmission is available. A taster with surprising potential.

All three are valuable. You pick the level of involvement you desire.

To apply to be one of the three women, comment on this post IMMEDIATELY answering the four questions below. (Your responses are confidential and will not be posted to the general public.) I’ll get back to you ASAP and let you know the results.

If you’d like to participate anonymously, answer the first three questions and bring them to the call.

And everyone, make a date to show up live. That’s definitely where the greatest mojo is.

So, to repeat:

Saturday May 31
10am Pacific
Free, virtual, mini Shero’s Retreat

(I’ll post call in details tomorrow. No opt-in required.)

I’m so excited I’ve finally thought of a way to bring the Shero’s Retreat to you. Now, you don’t have to wait until mid-July. And you don’t have to take my word for it. You can experience the value yourself. Hallelujah.

Question #1 — What is one area of your life that feels out of alignment? (i.e. your health, a relationship, your career/work or money…)

Question #2 –What do you know right now about what you want instead?

Question #3 — What do you know right now about what stands in the way?

Question #4 — If accepted to be coached live on the call, will you commit to participating live on Saturday, May 30 from 10am – 11:30am pacific time?

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Is yours a shero’s journey? And how can you benefit?

The doorways come in all different shapes:

For one, it was a case of spots. All over her body, arriving in one day like a mischievous fairy had gleefully painted her while she unknowingly slept. They looked god-awful but they didn’t hurt, thankfully. They did, however, itch.

For another, it was a suitcase, lost in a subway station on her way out of town. But even  more than the loss, it was the unlikely and utterly magical return of that suitcase just in the nick of time.

For yet another, it was the emergence of a husband’s lie that rocked everything she thought she knew.

All three women, feeling vastly different emotions, found themselves ushered onto a shero’s journey. All three, in various amounts of time, would come to believe that the life they’d been living (or rather, the way they’d been living it) didn’t fit anymore. It was time for a new way.

When I talk to people about the shero’s journey, I notice a frequent misconception that only the truly tragic incidents count. The near-death bouts with cancer; the violent assault; or like it was for my friend, Hollye, the burning to the ground of her home, with her business, her every possession, and her animals inside.

But the truth is, much “smaller,” less violent incidents put us on the path as well: the surprise divorce following 20 years of marriage; a series of minor injuries; being laid off or even just constant unpleasantness at work.

It’s also untrue that only hardship moves us forward. It’s most often true because we humans are stubborn creatures mostly asleep to what is good and magical in our lives! But sometimes we get it, like the woman who’s suitcase was miraculously returned, or another who was given the opportunity of a lifetime and suddenly realized her previous world view was inaccurate, unsupportive, and ripe for transformation.

All of these experiences can wake us up to that which is misaligned in our lives, can alert us to the need to correct course. They can point us in the direction of our true purpose and give us the courage and determination to move toward it.

But sometimes, we miss the signal. Or we get the message but don’t know what to change or how to go about it.

And we are left, sometimes for many years after, feeling disoriented and unmoored, unable to really land, and therefore unable to take flight.

This is what happens when we are caught between stories, between the version of our lives and selves that used to fit, that was familiar and understood before circumstance welcomed us onto the shero’s journey, and the new version, which is ALWAYS more inspired, better aligned, and more fulfilling, even though we often can’t see what it looks like until we are there.

So what do we need? How do we position ourselves to receive the benefits (which we certainly deserve considering how yucky the catalyst often feels!)?

1. Conscious release of the old story — this feels superfluous since we’ve often already “lost” something, but failing to examine and release what doesn’t fit keeps us super stuck. Plus, we often don’t even see what’s become outmoded. It takes a bit of investigation. (And it’s not as painful or hard as you’re thinking. Done well, this is gloriously healing — uplifting and nourishing.)

2. Time and space to listen and conceive the new — an utterly joyous process if done with the right support. Without that support, it’s easy to remain lost and confused.

3. Initiation into the new — a completely overlooked part of the process that energizes us and gives us the confidence and energy to move forward. You’ll be amazed by the power surge, usually greater than anything we’ve ever experienced.

This, exactly, is what the group Shero’s Retreat is designed to provide, in a peaceful, joyous, and nourishing setting.

If you’ve been lingering between stories, what might it do for you to be thoroughly supported? Can you even imagine what your life would look like? Or how it would feel?

This is my invitation to dream.

It might feel dangerous. But this is courage worth finding. You and your life are worth it.

I’ll be back tomorrow with more to support you. Until then, holding you in the sweetest of spaces.

 

 

 

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